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Have you ever noticed yourself creating conflict just for the sake of keeping things in your life stirred-up? Where does this unconsciousness come from? It must be unconscious, right? Otherwise we would be deliberately and consciously acting in a way that is unloving to ourselves and those around us. And no matter how irresponsible we are it just doesn't seem reasonable that anyone would choose to be so unloving, no matter what the circumstances.
One of our core responsibilities to ourselves is to check in and remember that we are at choice for everything. We are responsible for the words we use with another. We are responsible for how we treat our loved ones or the stranger on the corner selling newspapers. There is not a single aspect of our lives that is not our responsibility - - really.
I have noticed how easy it is in our society to jump on another irrationally because we perceive we are not receiving our fair share. I have noticed how a moment of unclarity can explode into a misjudgment and abuse against another. I have also noticed that in those rare instances some people have the self-presence to be a conduit of lovingness. These people choose to create harmony rather than discord in their lives and in the environment around them. They deliberately and intentionally find ways to make their lives more harmonious and loving.
Where are the places in your life that you use words, tone, emotion or actions toward another that is unkind? What are some examples that you can pull from your own life where you have chosen the chaos and disharmony instead of taking a balanced approach in a situation? Are there some parts of yourself that you can make adjustments to make your life a bit more harmonious and loving for you and those around you?
There are so many opportunities in our world to shift, to change and to make a positive difference. This month I encourage you to take some time to do some loving work within yourself to begin to cleanse, remove and rebalance the discord. Think through your intolerances and self-justifications and remember the elements of self-love that can definitely imbue your life. Choose to experience the loving nature of yourself and those around you.
In every moment we are given one chance. We have one chance to affirm who we “really” are or can be. Take this moment to reaffirm yourself as a loving, harmonious person in your life and the lives you touch.
Have a very harmonious month!!
Teachable Moments - The Trouble Tree
I hired a carpenter to help me restore an old farmhouse, and after he had just finished a rough first day on the job. A flat tire made him lose an hour of work, his electric saw quit, and now his ancient pickup truck refused to start.
While I drove him home, he sat in stony silence. On arriving, he invited me in to meet his family. As we walked toward the front door, he paused briefly at a small tree, touching tips of the branches with both hands. When opening the door, he underwent an amazing transformation. His tanned face was wreathed in smiles and he hugged his two small children and gave his wife a kiss. Afterward he walked me to the car. We passed the tree and my curiosity got the better of me. I asked him about what I had seen him do earlier.
"Oh, that's my trouble tree," he replied. "I know I can't help having troubles on the job, but one thing's for sure, troubles don't belong in the house with my wife and the children. So I just hang them up on the tree every night when I come home. Then in the morning I pick them up again. Funny thing is," he smiled, "when I come out in the morning to pick 'em up, there aren't nearly as many as I remember hanging up the night before."
Special thanks to Dottie for passing this piece of wisdom on to me.
Lighten Up! ON KICKING HIS MAJESTY'S BUTT
ONCE UPON A TIME there was a court jester who was in the employ of a
fun-loving king. The king loved the jester and they got along quite well.
One day as the king, who was not at all a thin man, was bending over to
pick up something on the floor of the throne chamber, the jester thought it would be quite amusing to kick the king in the butt. Surely the king, who liked a good joke, would appreciate the gesture. So he kicked the king, but he was too excited and got carried away, kicking a bit too hard, and the king went sprawling on the floor before his whole court.
When he got up he was not amused, and said to the jester, "One turn deserves another. Turn around and bend over." When the jester did so, he king gave him a sound kick that sent him sailing across the room. When he got up he was quite embarrassed and the whole court got a good laugh. Sulking and humiliated, he left the royal court and went into a garden, feeling most sorry for himself.
After a time, the king had compassion on the jester and went out to the garden to find him. He found him sitting under an apple tree with a look of humiliation on his face. The king came and sat down beside him, and for a moment said nothing. Then he asked, "How do you feel, my friend?"
The jester took a deep breath and replied, "I am embarrassed. I am sorry I kicked you. I did not mean to hurt you; all I wanted to do was amuse you." Replied the king, "I am aware of that. But learn this well, my friend: There is a difference between amusing and abusing. One should never do anything to another that would rob him of his dignity and station in life. It is a matter of respect, not just because I am the king, but because I am a person like anyone else. I have feelings too.
What you did embarrassed me as a person as well as a king. My command to you is this: Amuse, but never abuse your license or station, or you will surely lose it. I am your friend and your master, and tell you this by that authority."
~ Charles Henry Kropf
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